The Ember Ethos

Everything we do is built around the PRICK consent model — Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink. Which means every person is responsible for communicating honestly, acting with care, and respecting others. We’ve expanded on this model to form our values:

RESPECT. PRICK NOT DICKS.

R — Respecting the repair process
We acknowledge that harm, mistakes, misunderstandings, and conflict can happen. Respect means engaging with accountability, honesty, care, reflection, and a willingness to repair where possible. Accountability matters more than defensiveness.

E — Education happens in many forms
Learning happens through classes, lived experience, mentorship, observation, communication, accountability, and reflection. We value curiosity, humility, continued learning, and risk awareness at every skill level.

S — Shared spaces and shared responsibility
Safety, consent culture, cleanliness, communication, accessibility, and care for the environment are collective responsibilities. Community safety is everyone’s responsibility, not just leadership’s.

P — Property, people, power, and relationships
We respect bodies, identities, pronouns, belongings, time, labor, emotional energy, and boundaries. We acknowledge that experience, authority, social status, and teaching roles create power dynamics that require additional care and responsibility.

E — Explicit, informed, and ongoing consent
Consent is clear, specific, informed, voluntary, reversible, and continuously communicated. Silence, pressure, uncertainty, intimidation, manipulation, or coercion are not consent.

C — Community accountability
Healthy communities address harm rather than quietly managing or ignoring it. Accountability centers impact, safety, growth, repair where possible, and protection of the community over reputation or ego.

T — Time, trust, transparency, and participation
Trust is built over time through honesty, communication, consistency, humility, and respectful participation. We value authentic connection, transparency, and ongoing engagement in the health of the community.

P — Personal

R — Responsibility

I — Informed

C — Consensual

K — Kink

NOT

D — Divisiveness

I — Invalidating others’ experiences

C — Coercive behavior

K — Kink entitlement

S — Self-interest over community care